20: Their New Marriage

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Episode 20:

Their New Marriage


After eighteen months of relationship coaching and marriage prep, Shaunice marries the love of her life and shares her story alongside her husband with me. 


In today’s episode, Shaunice and I have a woman-to-woman sit down to discuss her dating and relationship journey, including learning and applying vulnerability and femininity lessons. Then, we’re joined by her husband, Rashad for a couple’s interview on their experience with Match Marry Mate™ and the events leading to their wedding day. Together, we chat about married life and insights into Muslim marriage.

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Our Conversation Covers:

    • [3:07] – Shaunice returns!
    • ​​[6:16] – This episode includes the male perspective on relationships and marriage.
    • [9:00] – I highlight the power of taking a pause and leaning into femininity when communicating.
    • [11:35] – Shaunice shares her favorite story involving navigating tense situations.
    • [13:08] – I cover expressing needs and desires to a caring partner without penalizing them.
    • [15:07] – I praise women’s power to positively influence and maintain intimacy.
    • [17:52] – Trust in the dynamic of masculine and feminine energies in relationships is important.
    • [19:42] – Marriage assumes adopting certain ideals, traditions, customs, and family dynamics.
    • [21:37] – Shaunice shares how being accepted as a daughter-in-law mattered so much to her.
    • [22:38] – I relate to Shaunice with a story about my dmother-in-love.
    • [24:28] – How does Shaunice feel about being a wife?
    • [26:27] – Learn how Shaunice is actively shaping her marriage.
    • [29:51] – Shaunice highlights the distinct aspects of living as Muslims, embracing roles and mutual support in marriage.
    • [31:04] – I express appreciation for Shaunice’s faith.
    • [34:06] – Shaunice shares her parenting approach and how she addressed her daughters’ concerns amid life changes.
    • [36:54] – Shaunice enters the Sacred Sisterhood Circle with me.
    • [38:28] – I introduce Rashad to the show.
    • [39:54] – Rashad identifies open-mindedness, kindness, and love for Black people as important traits in a wife.
    • [40:10] – I interject with the first lesson: How cultural pride can foster genuine connection.
    • [41:19] – How did Shaunice measure up to what Rashad wants in a wife?
    • [42:06] – I interject with the second lesson: How important listening is inside romantic relationships.
    • [44:41] – Rashad discusses his initial concerns and how to navigate friction.
    • [47:29] – I interject with the third lesson: How attitude and energy is received by a man.
    • [51:23] – I reflect on my impressions of Rashad when I first met him, and he, too, describes his initial impressions of me.
    • [53:07] – I interject with the fourth lesson: How men respond to support in relationships.
    • [56:27] – Learn about the structured partnership in Muslim marriage.
    • [1:00:32] – Rashad acknowledges the positive shifts in his wife’s demeanor and emotional processing through her relationship and marriage coaching.
    • [1:02:33] – I interject with the fifth lesson: The value of softness and femininity independent of external influences.
    • [1:07:28] – How is married life for Rashad?
    • [1:08:53] – I appreciate the significance of starting a marriage on a solid foundation.
    • [1:11:22] – Rashad humorously reflects on the consummation act, relating to Islamic principles.
    • [1:14:36] – Rashad joins the Brother-Sister Circle with me.

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