January 12, 2024

16: My Black Marriage Research

The Match Marry Mate™ Show
The Match Marry Mate™ Show
16: My Black Marriage Research

Show Notes

“While I believe that America owes Black Americans a great debt… we just cannot wait for it.  More than not waiting, though, we can actually help ourselves.” – Joyice

“This incident causes the most discord among Black people… It’s why we cannot see each other as people. We can’t give genuine care and grace and why we fight and love a game of gender wars. This is the part I seek to heal the most.” – Joyice


Greetings, Lovebugs! Welcome to our second experience. Come with me as I share the first part of my latest research project – an exploration focused on education, economics, and marriageability of Black boys and men. While the podcast primarily caters to Black women, the research holds greater significance for the entire Black community, and I explore the debt America owes Black Americans, emphasizing the urgency to act rather than wait for recognition.

The discussion navigates the complexities of understanding and improving conditions for Black men and boys as I call attention to the debts they have inherited and how it has impacted Black Love and the Black Family. I also unravel historic evidence, spotlight improvements, and ambitiously work towards a self-sufficient future for Black communities.

Until next time, please remember that if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me, I invite you to drop your truth! I also invite you to enroll in the Nurturing My Self-Esteem Mini-Course or grab the Feminine Identity Bundle.

Correction: The author is not Tracey Chapman, but Audrey B. Chapman. 

Time Stamps:

  • [4:04] – Gain some insights ont academic research, with a focus on enhancing conditions for Black males.
  • [6:18] – I urge America to dissolve constraints oppressing Black boys and men.
  • [9:24] – I advocate for accessible research for all, emphasizing its impact on individuals, prioritizing humanity over political agendas.
  • [12:43] – I offer an example, stressing adapting research for Black communities.
  • [15:11] – I desire for my research communication to be comprehensible for all.
  • [18:26] – My line of research studies how education and economics impact the marital status of Black men.
  • [20:14] – My research especially targets debts in education, economics, and marriage for Black boys and men.
  • [23:47] – I use models and address the lasting effects of racism.
  • [26:24] – I connect financial language, diverse models, and cultural insights, advocating for restorative policies.
  • [28:09] – I explain how my research also examines the educational, economic, and marital debts owed to Black men to improve their societal standing.
  • [30:30] – I directly address Black mothers, urging them to raise their sons to contribute meaningfully to society.
  • [32:28] – Black fathers, your sons need you!
  • [34:12] – I move into the subject of debt owed to Black boys.
  • [37:11] – I borrow the word “rift” to depict racial discord, urging proactive actions for emotional, relational, and financial healing.
  • [40:15] – I call Black men to the front again, urging them to address the marriage gap and emphasizing responsibility.
  • [41:50] – I recommend a few helpful resources regarding this topic.
  • ​​[44:37] – I mentioned cultural norms of marriage and education, addressing intergenerational cycles and advocating for educational shifts.
  • [48:02] – An individual mindset is not helpful; my research proposes a collective approach.
  • [51:44] – Marriage among less-educated Black Americans may face increased stress due to financial instability and strain.
  • [54:20] – Societal progress hinges on acknowledging men’s need to earn, supporting families, before discussing marital structures.
  • [56:25] – I discuss how securing at least a high school diploma benefits Black men.
  • [59:33] – I cite research that states that households headed by Black women are amongst the most impoverished in the country.
  • [1:02:34] – I encourage young Black women to seek guidance on education, careers, and relationships.
  • [1:05:02] – Educational injustices affect Black men, women, and children, ultimately shaping conflicting beliefs on marriage and masculinity.
  • [1:06:59] – I close by expressing appreciation for strong Black marriages, urging listeners to actively contribute to family and community healing.

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Literature & Links Mentioned

  • My Black Marriage Research Blog Post {+ Episode Guide}
  • His Dating Pivot Blog Post {+ Episode Guide}
  • Marriage As A Cultural Norm Podcast Episode 
  • Of Boys & Men by Richard Reeves
  • Why I Love Black Women by Michael Eric Dyson
  • The Spirit of a Man by Iyanla Vanzanrt