January 26, 2024

18: Her Relationship Gems

The Match Marry Mate™ Show
The Match Marry Mate™ Show
18: Her Relationship Gems

Show Notes

“I have to be comfortable with the fact that I’m not for everyone, and everyone’s not for me. That was a hard lesson for me to learn.” ~ Timka 

“My job as your Dating & Relationship Coach is to develop your female identity more and to mature your quality of womanliness. Trust me, you will need that if you want to be married. You cannot lose yourself in your commitment to a man.” ~Joyice


Hiya, Lovebugs! Welcome to our fourth experience. I am joined by Timka who is sharing her transformative dating journey in her first year as a current Match Marry Mate™ client. I’ve witnessed her undergo a profound shift in her mindset, dedication to personal growth, and evoke levels of intimacy with a male companion.

From honing personal, communication, and relationship skills, she has embraced a holistic approach, evolving into the woman she is today. Timka candidly discusses her experiences, valuable (and quotable) lessons learned, and how she gracefully bid farewell to the “Mr. Nice Guy” archetype. She gives us the tea on breaking free from people-pleasing tendencies and acquiring the ability to engage in assertive conversations. Timka also shares real-life instances, offering a play-by-play of her interactions and communication with the last man she dated.

Our conversation includes topics on: emotional regulation, the dynamics of masculine and feminine partnerships, navigating relationships with men in various stages of development, and the art of righteous rejection. 

Until next time, please remember that if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me, I invite you to drop your truth! I also invite you to enroll in the Nurturing My Self-Esteem Mini-Course or grab the Feminine Identity Bundle.

Time Stamps:

  • [2:51] – I am joined today by Timka, a client sharing her transformative dating journey!
  • [6:51] – Timka emphasizing pivotal moments that sparked self-realization.
  • [9:48] – Hear Timka detail her post-grad school experience, entering the dating scene, and facing dating challenges.
  • [11:34] – Timka discusses discovering her self-worth.
  • [14:42] – During her time in London, Timka embraced being single.
  • [17:17] – I commend Timka for her accountability for past mistakes in relationships.
  • [19:09] – Timka acknowledges the challenge of being comfortable that not everyone will like her.
  • [21:03] – Timka underscores recognizing misalignments and asking important questions.
  • [23:28] – I agree, emphasizing the importance of effective communication, particularly listening.
  • [26:22] – Timka likens herself to a butterfly, as she has matured and grown in her dating journey.
  • [28:51] – I highlight women’s emotional intelligence as a superpower.
  • [31:19] – Don’t let your superpower be your kryptonite!
  • [32:59] – Timka shares the importance of giving men space to process emotions without taking it personally.
  • [35:39] – Timka asserts her boundaries, navigates confrontations with grace, and discovers the power of her femininity.
  • [38:11] – Timka describes a mature and open relationship, emphasizing communication, understanding, and the potential for a future connection.
  • [39:41] – Femininity requires a lot of energy!
  • [41:45] – I applaud Timka for understanding men as humans, balancing energies, and fostering connection and intimacy in relationships.
  • [44:38] – Hear Timka give a specific example of how she demonstrates self-love by showing up for herself.
  • [48:38] – Learn why Timka values silence for personal processing, recognizing the importance of allowing partners space for individual reflections.
  • [50:00] – I highlight Timka’s skill in resolving conflicts, especially humility, soft responses, and merging femininity with cultural humor.
  • [53:05] – Timka shares an incident where she handled disagreement maturely.
  • [55:34] – Patience and understanding in gaining intimacy is powerful, as is navigating male nature.
  • [57:47] – I explain a man’s capacity to receive feminine energy and the importance of positioning oneself wisely in a relationship.
  • [59:19] – I discuss defining and upholding personal standards and femininity, independent of a man’s role.
  • [1:01:14] – Timka appreciates her suitor for having recognized that he had self-discovery and growth to do.
  • [1:04:03] – I agree, applauding him for his honesty in recognizing his development needs.
  • [1:07:05] – Timka enters the Sacred Sisterhood Circle with me. 

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Literature & Links Mentioned

  • Her Relationship Gems Blog Post {+ Episode Guide}
  • Female Archetypes 
  • Male Archetypes 

“I have the power and ability to say, ‘No, thank you,’ with kindness, respect, and maturity.” – Timka

“Do not let your [female] superpower turn into your kryptonite. Allow it to completely work as a superpower. Take the step to process it [feelings] because raw emotions can be ugly.” – Joyice