November 17, 2023

Special 03: Marital Submission

The Match Marry Mate™ Show
The Match Marry Mate™ Show
Special 03: Marital Submission

Show Notes

“I do think there’s a contingent of Black men that think that Black women should recognize their ‘authority’ just on the account of them being a man. I think it’s woefully misguided, but it does exist in our community.” – Jeremiah

Welcome back, lovebugs! My husband and I are together again to explore balance between leadership and submission, untangling historical roots of resistance among Black women.

Examining the intersections of race, culture, and religion, we navigate through Biblical passages from the Old and New Testaments. We distinguish between different forms of marriage – patriarchal, partnership, and egalitarian – and shed light on their implications for gender relations within the Black community.

We also draw on real-life stories, Biblical narratives, and scholarly insights to challenge preconceptions about submission and to offer a nuanced perspective on the roles of husbands and wives. Be sure to download your Marital Submission episode guide, and tune in!

Be sure to stay tuned, as well, because we still have two more episodes left in this mini-series, and also remember that if you have a Secret Story you want to share with me, I invite you to drop your truth for the next Secret Story episode!

Time Stamps:

  • [2:28] – We are talking about marital submission in today’s show.
  • [5:07] – What, actually, is the meaning of submission?
  • [7:57] – I explore power dynamics and three U.S. marriage forms, emphasizing patriarchal marriages and submission.
  • [9:28] – Patriarchal marriages can be divided into two types.
  • [11:57] – I advocate for marital equity over sameness.
  • [14:37] – Hear me examine the historical impact on black marriages and the influence of Western patriarchy.
  • [17:05] – I explore the influence of Western patriarchal Christian marriage and emphasize mutual submission.
  • [20:27] – Is there a historical link between Black male authority and expectations of female submission?
  • [21:31] – Jeremiah observes a misguided belief among some Black men linking authority solely to gender.
  • [24:46] – The expectations of sacrificial love as outlined in Ephesians 5.
  • [26:51] – Jeremiah highlights equal reciprocity and breaking down sacrificial love into observable actions.
  • [27:34] – We highlight the connection between a husband’s love, self-love, and unity in marriage.
  • [30:10] – The male instinct of protection and provision draws from nature and society.
  • [32:35] – Jeremiah feels that men are driven by instinct to build and protect but could lose their creative drive due to external factors.
  • [35:52] – Men’s instinct to build can be activated with societal influence shaping their priorities.
  • [38:07] – I share how a wife’s fulfillment is connected to her encouraging her husband’s submission to the Divine.
  • [44:28] – It’s important to adhere to instructions, drawing from personal experience and Biblical verses to illustrate dynamics in commitments.
  • [48:02] – I note Scripture’s emphasis on men in pastoral patriarchy and highlighting the Biblical oneness achieved through mutual submission.
  • [51:36] – Jeremiah highlights the instinct to build , emphasizing selflessness, and preparation.
  • [54:15] – Jeremiah adds the importance of a selfless mindset in building for longevity, emphasizing the impact on family, children, and assets.
  • [57:30] – Jeremiah emphasizes that a man’s work and legacy should be selfless, inspiring those closest to him.

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