Special 06: 2023 “Black Love” Wrapped

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Special 06:

2023 “Black Love” Wrapped


On the last day of the year, join me and my co-host, Kaity Rodriguez as we share our professional and personal takes on ten unforgettable “Black Love” moments in 2023, including Rihanna’s pregnancy announcement, Eboni K’s partner preference and elitism, and Kerry Washington’s tenth marriage anniversary.



Kaity and I are manifesting our “Oprah & Gayle” energy for 2024, and what better way that to wrap up the year together practicing our co-hosting skills. Yes, we offer some professional insight, but titles and expertise aside, we’re simply like-minded Black women with our two cents on the Culture too. You’ll hear our opinionated perspectives and playful disagreements (because we do not see eye-to-eye on everything), judging each story as “messy” or “magical” for the Black Community. 


Are you familiar with feminine archetypes? Have you listened to my episode them? While we wouldn’t claim to be Feminine Archetypes Experts, we’ve spent enough time in study and practice, to accurately identify a type (for the most part). So, we also some more fun giving our educated guesses on the feminine archetype for each woman we cover in this episode. Join us!  


If you want to know which ten stories we cover, you’ll have to listen to the episode! However, I will share that The List made our honorable mention title and it aired as its own minisode.

What We Cover:

[0:48] – Join Joyice and Kaity delving into unforgettable moments in Black culture this year!
[4:14] – Our first story opens with Rihanna’s Super Bowl surprise.
[6:06] – As a fan, Kaity shares her thoughts on Rihanna’s pregnancy announcement.
[9:40] – Joyice and Kaity weigh in on Rihanna as an unmarried mother of two.
[11:25] – Kaity contrasts Rihanna’s reality with broader frustrations faced by many Black women.
[14:30] – Joyice and Kaity address “dating the bus driver” with our two cents for Eboni K. 

[17:09] – Joyice acknowledges socioeconomic compatibility but critiques classism and elitism.

[18:57] – Joyice defends the pursuit of financial stability without negative portrayals.
[22:01] – Joyice asks listeners questions about distinctions between earning power and class.
[25:12] – Kaity speculates that Eboni’s feminine archetype.
[27:45] – Joyice discussing “dating down,” contrasting Rihanna as a positively-viewed relationship and Keke’s as a cautionary tale.
[30:03] – Kaity highlights the importance of a united public front in romantic relationships. 

[33:35] – We agree that the way Keke is handling the social media drama is magical.
[33:56] – Joyice speculates KeKe’s feminine archetype.
[34:26] – Ciara and Russell Wilson’s heartwarming baby announcement inspires Kaity to maintain hope for her own love story.
[36:34] – Joyice cheers on Ciara for being a Feminine Yet Firm (FYF) Woman.
[38:26] – Kaity speculates KeKe’s feminine archetype.
[42:30] – Kaity argues that consistency in messaging is crucial.

[43:30] – Women should prioritize listening to other women for relationship advice.
[45:25] – Joyice points out that addressing men directly for actionable steps could yield positive change, as seen with Dr. Umar Johnson.
[47:11] – The Perry incident motivated Kaity to tune out social media noise and write this post.
[48:44] – Joyice reminds listeners that Tyler Perry is not a relationship expert.
[50:59] – Kaity appreciates Tyler Perry’s insights on creativity but agrees that he isn’t qualified to give women relationship advice.
[52:06] – Eboni K makes a second appearance on our list with Mrs. Degrees.
[55:14] – Eboni’s college relationship advice overlooks the cultural mismatch and unique experiences within the Black community.
[58:36] – Eboni’s advice also lacks practical tools for young women trying to find a husband in college.
[1:02:04] – Joyice celebrates Kerry Washington’s decade-long marriage and her memoir.
[1:06:45] – Joyice speculates Kerry’s feminine archetype.
[1:07:25] – Kaity and Joyice cover the “No Matter What” Marriage and how wives can handle public comments.
[1:12:06] – Joyice states that Tupac’s revisited story possibly impacted Will’s image publicly.
[1:14:57] – We agree that Jada should not be vilified.
[1:17:07] – There was clear discomfort to how Will reacted to Jada’s public comments.
[1:20:08] – Joyice declares that disregarding agreed-upon privacy boundaries weakens relationships, and Will’s discomfort emphasizes the importance of mutual respect.
[1:23:04] – Kaity & Joyice speculate Jada’s feminine archetype.
[1:24:20] – Kaity & Joyice discuss “the story that they don’t care about, but know that y’all do.”
[1:29:14] – Closing on a high note, we cover our final story of the year!  


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